Doing, Caring, and Communing | Worship Wednesday
Often we think we have to have a perfect Christmas for everyone to be happy—including us!
Yet, there may be circumstances beyond our control that are keeping us from having a "perfect" holiday; family stress, illness, divorce, financial strain. Any of these things can interfere with our ability to enjoy the holidays. Wherever you find yourself today, there are some simple things you can do to have a happier Christmas, regardless of your situation.
Recently I read about some scientists conducting a happiness study. Their research revealed that among people who rated themselves "happiest," there were three common patterns. If we incorporate these same habits into our lives this Christmas week, we can drive away the humbugs and bring on the happy!
The first thing about happy people is: They do things they enjoy.
Wow, that's a real epiphany isn't it?
In her book, Women Who Do Too Much, Patricia Sprinkle shares this simple formula for enjoying life more:
- Do more of what you enjoy doing.
- Do less of what you don't enjoy doing.
- Spend more time doing what you are good at.
- Spend less time doing things you aren't so good at.
This is a great recipe for keeping the holiday spirit! As we let go of the things we feel we have to do and focus on the things we enjoy doing, we'll feel our stress begin to melt away.
Just this morning I got an email from my sis-in-law who spent the weekend baking. She must have made eight different recipes and she's not finished. Thankfully she is coming to my house for the holiday, so that means...I don't have to bake.
In the past this would have been hard to let go of. But the reality is, I don't enjoy baking nearly as much as I once did. Without kids in the kitchen, it's just not the same. So, letting go of this tradition, while hard, will ultimately help me have a happier time with my family. Plus, we still get to enjoy homemade goodies.
Think about the things you still have to do this week. Which do you really enjoy? Now, about those other things...
What can you delegate? What can you do without? You may be surprised what you can give up and how much happier you will be as a result!
The next thing the study found is: happy people are part of a community.
Finding time to be with people--family, neighbors, church friends, and so on--will help you enjoy your holiday more. Some of you may be thinking, you don't know my family! Well, I actually have my own, so I think I know what you mean. Warts and all, we are made to spend time with others. These meaningful connections ground us and help us have a sense of belonging. If we let go of some of our Hallmark Channel-inspired expectations, and accept people (and ourselves) for what we are, you may be surprised at how much fun they are.
What can you do this week to nurture your sense of community? How about inviting the neighbors over for some hot cider? Or making time to catch up with an old friend? Or stopping by a nursing home and saying hello to a few residents? These things will connect you with others and make you feel better. You will find yourself humming falalala in no time!
The last thing the study showed is: happier people care and do for others.
There is definitely still time to help others this season. And in doing so, we will enrich our own enjoyment of the holidays. Let's face it it feels good to give. And when we reach out beyond ourselves and meet someone else's need, we cheer ourselves up.
Here are a couple of ideas to get you started:
- Pack up extra scarves, hats, and gloves and drop them at the local mission or homeless shelter.
- Offer to babysit for a single parent so they can finish up their Christmas shopping.
- Purchase a gift card and give it to someone you know could use it.
Any of these generous acts will life your spirits, and you will be making a difference in someone else's Christmas at the same time.
You can have the happiest Christmas yet...by putting these simple steps into action. Remember, it doesn't have to be perfect to be merry!
Sue Brage worked in nonprofit marketing and communications for more than nine years before joining Group Publishing as Online Publisher and Editor for Church Volunteer Daily.com. Her experience as a writer, editor, and volunteer coordinator (not to mention wife and mother) gives her a unique perspective and ability to encourage and help leaders. She has a big heart for people and great passion for helping others serve their churches and communities better. Follow Sue on Twitter at @SueB rage and @CVCDaily
